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Perfectionism is not about being perfect at all!
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At its core perfectionism is about the fear of just ONE thing and one thing alone, and that is…
“The Fear of Not Being Good Enough”
The good news is that you can rid yourself of perfectionism and its destructive force in your life and career.
Perfectionism and anxiety and depression are highly connected and I’m committed to helping you move past it and overcome it.
Perfectionism and progress don’t go together!
Are you wearing your perfectionism on your sleeve almost like a badge of honour and can you be brave enough to let go of it?
I walk you through some powerful questions for your own awareness when it comes to overcoming your perfectionism.
Who do you want to become?
Can you learn to fail well?
You can HAVE a failure and not BE a failure!
A failure is just an event, not a personality trait.
Those are 2 different things.
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February 8, 2021 at 8:34 pm
Oh geez, second comment! I love “Good is Good Enough!” This helps me relax, keep moving forward and accepting the fact that I can do it, despite not knowing everything!
“Thanks Jo!”
February 8, 2021 at 8:39 pm
You’re so very welcome! That one mantra “Good is good enough” helps me so much to this very day I continue to use it when I start getting too much up in my thoughts about over-complicating an idea or project and trying to make it so very perfect! Such a help.
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Hi Jo,
Thank you for this great topic, but I have some confusion around this one. Last year, I found a contest for “Nelvana,” the animation house here in Toronto. They were looking for children’s songs for their “Toon Bops” series. I happened to have written a little tune for a children’s story I wrote, so decided to enter. I recorded it over and over, and then used my iPhone mic, recording “live” in my kitchen. That was the criticism when I followed up about it. They said it wasn’t polished (my word) because it was done “live off the floor.” A friend, who was also quite reactive, said to me that people with $10,000 studios enter these kinds of things, and they are the artists who are inevitably hired. I was kind of crushed. I tend to try and try and try, thinking something just isn’t good enough, and then surrender, only to present something that might not be polished enough? I am not sure where the balance is? Do you mean, when performing on Instagram or Facebook, mistakes are OK in showing the “human-ness” of a performer?
Good questions! I am big fan of practicing heavily and mastering your craft, but I”m also a fan of doing things before you are ready to. You did a really great thing in entering and getting the feedback, don’t forget that your mindset needs to extend further to receiving the feedback and moving forward. Don’t make the feedback mean anything to you personally. Ask yourself, what are the next steps? Figure out how to make a better track at home – FYI: You definitely do not need a $10,000 studio. My setup is really only $500 (not including my laptop) and it can produce great sounding tracks. I appreciate that your friend was in support of you, but this is one of those situations where you might want to reject that style of thinking and use that great mindset that compelled you to enter and apply it to the feedback given. It’s easy to say “people with more money and more things get everything” but it doesn’t sound like you believe that style of thinking. Also, remember not getting too attached to the results. If you feel like it’s a fail because you didn’t get the job, you don’t get to use the experience for growth. You’ve got this, keep moving forward 🙂 Cheers Jo