Ep #63 - Why I Love Anger

Use your anger to feed real change and transformation!

Most of my clients are surprised to find out that Anger is actually one of my favourite emotions and that I even welcome their anger into our sessions because to me it’s one of the most important emotions for change to begin.

As young ones we are conditioned and programmed that anger is bad and that there is NO place for Anger. Stop doing that, stop being mad, stop it, stop feeling like that, that will get you nowhere. Etc…That’s the usual rhetoric that society places on this emotion.

And that’s understandable because a lot of the time the representation of Anger that we see is very destructive. Because what we are seeing is the consequence of someone acting out in Anger not anger itself. Actions caused by anger.

As of today I want you to redefine what anger is to you.

I want to ask you what your definition of anger is?

The dictionary defines it as “a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure or hostility”.

Then I want to tell you what my definition is:

“Anger is my clue that something inside me is ready to change”

It’s NOT the way I change it, it’s the clue it’s the sign, that change is necessary. It’s the first sign NOT to act in this emotion. It’s a clear sign of FEAR. My podcast last week was about fear and love and I suggest you listen to that one if you haven’t yet it’s a great compliment to this episode and vice versa.