Episode #135 – ENVY

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Hello Everyone!

My husband and I started a duo act this year and one of our major goals is to “have fun” and honestly that has kept us so grounded and in our music pursuits and it helps us always remember that no matter what happens, you only have a certain amount of time so use it wisely.

One of the things that I see a lot and maybe I”m seeing it in a much bigger way right now because we’ve just finished promoting our first single to radio etc is how artists, musicians really get bogged down by emotions that have to do with what they believe others are achieving or have.

And envy of course is one of those emotions.

When I work with clients, I ask a few commitments of them, and one of those commitments is to be fully honest with me and them selves.

If you’re really being honest today with me and with yourself, have you been feeling envious over someone else’s accomplishments or even what you perceive to be their accomplishments lately.

Now I want to make a clear distinction between seeing what someone else has and wanting it for yourself. That is called inspiration for some or even desire. I think that when we see that others have achieved something and we are able to say “yeah I really want that for myself.” That’s totally okay.

It’s when you are saying “I see what you have and I don’t think you should have it”. That’s called envy. And the way that you know if you’re feeling like this is if you sometimes feel like “That person isn’t worthy”, or “I wish it was taken away from them, they don’t deserve it.” 

And if you’re being honest about the feelings or thoughts you’ve had recently or in the past, have you ever felt satisfied or happy that someone was failing? 

So it’s good that we are talking about this and getting in front of it.

Because I work alot with roadblocks, emotions and thoughts that keep artists, creatives stuck and this is a big one. And if you’re brave enough to look in the mirror at your thoughts and emotions and call yourself out “Lovingly and compassionately” that you’re doing this, feeling this or thinking this way. You can break these chains and open up a whole world of opportunity and success to come your way.

This is a very low frequency emotion, it brings other low frequency emotions to you. It may even bring you people who also think and feel this way and you don’t want that.

I believe strongly in building a team that want the absolute best for all in the team, that can be hard to do and find, but if you break through some of these emotions and thoughts you’re on way to doing that.

If you can become the team member who truly wants the best for not only yourself but all involved that team will grow with other amazing people who practice incredibly good thoughts and feel good about what they are doing.

I’ve seen this in action strongly myself this year, this was something that I always felt I was really bad at. But as I”ve done the work, I’ve grown my team, and I feel really genuinely happy about everyone I’m currently working with, because I want them to win as well.

When you are not feeling any envy or jealousy over what someone else has, you can easily elevate yourself to a place of hope, inspiration and motivation to move to the next step.

I don’t see anyone as my competition, because I want us all to win!

And it’s easy to get caught up in the opposite attitude that everyone is your competition.

I’ve had industry in the past point out artists to me and literally say “this is your competition, they are younger, prettier, more connected, have more money…etc etc…”

Now! Now I say these artists are not my competition at all, because I want them to win too.

Great feelings and thoughts are like snowballs they bring other great things to you in much greater ways than bad feelings and thought do.

Envy is really a victim type mentality, so if you’re feeling this it’s think of it like a beacon of hope letting you know that if you change this thought and these feeling your whole world will change.

There is something very motivating about having a direction in this business. And so if you’re wondering, what do I do next, how can I achieve what i want to achieve, instead of looking at the numbers and the stats.

Listen to your thoughts, hear what you’re saying about yourself and others, removing this one roadblock will open a whole new realm of possibilities.

I promise!

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